Are You “Accidentally” Transferring Negative Energy?

We all have bad days; however some people have more than others.    Although I pride myself as a happy person, there are moments I experience negativity for no apparent reason.  For instance when my co-workers began to complain and produce negative attitudes.  I find that the smallest thing begin to cause me to be snappy. There are also some areas in my life that are consistently negative in my opinion.  For example, I have a teenage daughter, sixteen years old to be exact, she is a good kid but the constant eye, head and lip movement just irks the core of my being.   Yeah, I know I sound dramatic because I am a good and bad Drama Queen.  Although it is never acceptable for a child to direct a negative response towards a parent, I am concerned with the reasons behind her relentless irritation.    Since all the negative energy seems to be directed towards me, I’d begin to wonder if I were the source.



A friend once told me that happiness is based on happenings and joy comes from the soul.  Never forgetting this quote, I’ve always strived to feed my spiritual soul.  Now I find my natural happenings out of balance.  So I recently challenged my self identify the source of energy in my life.

First I realized I was not Creating my happenings.  When my creator established the earth and me, he looked and saw it was good.  Just having positive quotes, affirmations, and books placed around your desk and home is not enough.  We must know and follow these quotes and affirmations before adversity shows up.  If you set a ritual of creating happy happenings, a positive Godly standard will shield you from being infected with negative ions. Remember when the enemy comes in like a flood the spirit of God will build up a standard against him.  Start Creating Your Standard!


One of my greatest lessons in my challenge was realizing my lack of COMPASSION .  Being a teenager with ever changing hormones and rules and regulations can be a challenging life to lead.  I remember at her age always being too old for this but too young for that.  No matter what age I achieved it just meant, yeah you can go to the dance but you need to be home at 10 o’clock.  Oh of course the dance didn’t end until 12 and EVERONE else could stay later.  Now I am the parent saying, “Yes you can have a drivers license but you’re not ready for a car.”  How fair does that seem.   Although I now empathize with her, my rule is still the same but my delivery is different.  I now understand if she isn’t allowed to use the car she won’t be able to prove what a safe, confident and responsible driver.  Compassion allows me now to have an open mind and at least try to find some level ground.  Of course in all things you want be able to please everyone but it is important to acknowledge and consider others views.  She still does not have free access to my vehicle but her usage has increased.  Yes, Yes, Yes I see the eyes.  Yes, I feel the heavy breathing.  Yes, I hear the complaining.  Compassionately I know she is just multi-tasking.



Positive and negative energy is everywhere.  Their like bacteria, we all have good and bad.  However we must purpose not to let the bad energy override our positive power.  By not feeding into negativity through a compassionate and understanding spirit you can and will create POSITIVE POWER.  Wash your mind like you wash your hands.  Be careful not to spread Negative Energy.  Help cure the spread of this deadly disease.

I had to end my “In The Meantime” to get to my Purpose.

How many times have you heard expressions like, “find your purpose in life, pursue your passion and the money will follow, do what you love doing.”  Well what if you haven’t found your purpose or can’t afford to wait on the money.  Your just drifting, doing whatever you do in the MEANTIME.  For years I drifted trying to understand my purpose, destiny, and passion. What Would I Do For Free?  For years I told myself there was absolutely nothing I would do for free.  I am laughing at myself as I type this because I was already giving my gift away for free. 


I gave my talents to my employers with little recognition, no title, and no extra pay.  That’s because I didn’t realize my purpose.  My in the meantime started at the age of 17.  As a team leader then later supervisor for a local fast food restaurant, I trained and managed cashiers and other managers.  They even had me leading customer service training activities and meetings (I was a kid.) I later found myself again training and managing employees at a law firm.  Next I was at a global paper company with the pay of a customer service representative, but I was hosting teambuilding activities, product training, and implementing strategies to help increase the companies Gallup poll numbers.  Yes this was a long in the meantime 19 years to be exact. 

One day I was listening to Bishop T. D. Jakes and he said, “You’ve delayed your dreams so long that your faith doesn’t’ even believe you anymore.” Something in me screamed, cried, and then awakened.  I knew I had to put an end to my meantime. No it was not easy then and continues to be a struggle for me everyday. However my meantime, is my now time.  With the 4 steps below I am making it happen.

Step #1.           STOP MAKING EXCUSES!!!!!  You will never find your purpose, passion, destiny, dream job or whatever you call it if you are not searching, STOP PROCRASTINATING TODAY! 

Step #2.             Make a Plan Habakkuk 2:2 states “Write the vision; make it plain on tablets, so he may run who reads it.”  Put your dreams, vision, or plans on paper. Every business needs a business plan. Your life is your business make a plan for it. 

Step #3.             Set Deadlines and stick to your deadlines.  If you have small amounts of time use it wisely.  If you want to write a book start by writing a page a day.  Eventually the ideas will begin to follow at a greater rate.

Step #4.           Work Your Plan         Do what you say you want to do.  Do what you say you’re going to do.  Turn off the TV, cell phone, Facebook, Twitter, or whatever your distraction maybe.  This is YOUR VISION only you can make it happen.  Take control of your life today.


Today I am sharing my gift with the world for FREE.  Lets all laugh out loud.  I am pursuing my passion of training and development.

Let’s Go!

San Davis